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Trying to be Honest in times of Needs...can be more fruitful

Posted on Saturday, 27 December 2014



Trying to be Honest In Times of Needs
…can be more fruitful
By Apolinario Villalobos

When we are in our direst needs, we try our best a hundred times to survive. When such times come, some of us exert effort to make cover-ups, too shy to let others know the real situation we are in. By being honest, however, does not mean that we are soliciting help. We can even gain respect and admiration, by showing others our endurance during such trying needs. The respect and admiration, as the fruits of our effort are sweeter, than the casual reaction from others whose view of our real situation is obstructed by hypocrisy.

I have a friend who used to hold a high executive position in a company. Despite such opportunity, he was unable to save much needed cash for his retirement because of the regular trek of acquaintances to him, to seek his financial help.  To make the story short, when he retired, he was left with a meager social security pension, not even enough for his maintenance drugs. Every time I visited him, we would talk about friends who became successful in their jobs. His statements were always punctuated with “ I am thankful that they made it…”. Truth is, he had been instrumental for those friends’ success. Some were his subordinates whom he pushed with deserved promotions and guaranteed referrals.

Because of ailments that came with advancing age, he lost weight which practically changed his physical appearance. Despite the transformation, he could still muster a smile, as if nothing had changed. Today, he is financially handicap, but he does not show it. He just profusely expresses his thanks every time I bring him a small jar of coffee, wheat bread, and honey. When former colleagues learned about his situation, they visited him and brought him presents, for which the same sincere thanks are expressed with a smile.

My friend gained much respect because of what he honestly showed, reaping admiration in the process. His effort proved that time may have changed his physical make up… his appearance. But it did not change his image that exudes contentment despite his obvious material needs.  He humbly appreciates the respect, enhanced by admiration, as shown by his smile while waiting for the flicker of his life to finally die down.

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