The Fragments of our Life...realities that we should understand
Posted on Wednesday, 4 January 2017
The Fragments of our Life
…realities that we should understand
By Apolinario Villalobos
From the time we came into this world up to
age 4 or 5, we spent 100% of time with our parents and siblings at home. Beyond
that, part of our time has been spent with friends, classmates, and teachers,
until we have finished college. After graduating from college, we found a job
at age 22, a little after or presumably at age 25 we have settled down. In the
meantime, we worked until we reached the retirement age of 60 or 65. This
presumption is based on the NORMAL stages of our life.
Summary:
20 or 21 years spent with the family
15 or 16 years spent with friends and
classmates
40 years or more in the work area
50 or 60 or even less spent with the same
partner (if lucky)
In other words, childhood friends know us
only for a short time while we were playing and went to school with them. Our
family knows us only while we lived with them under the same roof until we have
found a job and be with colleagues in the work area most of the time. Our
family will never know if along the way, we met people that could practically
cause drastic changes in our personality, and that includes using illegal
drugs. Our partners in life are supposed to know us more as we spend the most
time with them, but NOT ALL who settle down open 100% of themselves up to their
partners.
The role of our parents in our life ends at
the time we leave them to have a family of our own. Our childhood friends and
classmates can recall only the naughty and happy times spent with them. Our
colleagues in the work area can observe our characters while we are with them
for 8 hours a day. And, our partners in life will only know us MORE if we trust
them, but it is a different story if we do not.
In other words, nobody that we consider
part of our life knows us COMPLETELY as they do not have a 100% knowledge of
all the fragments of our life. It is for this reason that during wakes of
departed loved ones, surprising stories would come up.
Nobody then has the right to make judgment
on a person just because he is a son or daughter, a brother or sister, a
classmate, a colleague in the work area, or even a wife or husband because they
DO NOT know everything about him or her
when he was still alive.
In view of the above, the only way to have
a serene relationship with the people who have been or still part of our life
is to be UNDERSTANDING OR INDULGENT for which an OPEN MIND should be
maintained, instead of being JUDGMENTAL. That, for me, is how TRUST should be
manifested and which should be RECIPROCAL.
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