Do Not Feel Bad About Unfulfilled Dreams
Posted on Friday, 11 December 2015
Do
Not Feel Bad
About
Unfulfilled Dreams
By Apolinario Villalobos
There is a popular adage, “life is what we
make it”. All of us have limitations, hence, it follows that the life we live
is based on our best effort, but hampered by limitations. We cannot be like
what others are. We can strive, yes…but the result may not be the same as what
others have accomplished. The problem with some of us is that they dream to be
like somebody else which is impossible. Successful people can be looked up to
as models or be admired, but cannot be exactly copied.
Success is relative. The degree and kind of
success varies. In this regard, to avoid getting disappointed, one should
accept what he has accomplished based on his capability and just strive a
little harder to be able to accomplish more. He should not feel bad, for
instance, because he did not become a manager like his friend, or a physician
like another friend, or a mayor, etc.
Those who develop grudge because of their
“failure” supposedly, equate success to fame which is wrong. Others feel that
just because they did not become famous like others, they have become a
failure. I can say that such kind of feeling is a manifestation of jealousy
which breeds grudge….nothing else. Success in life is the happiness and
contentment one feels every morning as he wakes up to another day….it is the
joy felt in what he does.
We should not be occupied with gawking at
what others are doing or be jealous with what they have accomplished. Each one
of us has a different kind of life to live and concerns much different from the
rest. On the other hand, the jealous attitude is most often the result of
unnecessary and unhealthy rivalry in offices and other work sites. This is
called professional jealousy which affects the operation and atmosphere.
Finally, successful people may wonder why
some friends have suddenly kept a distance from them for no reason at all that
they know of. There is something for these shunned successful people to ponder
about…jealousy developed by their friends who have the habit of comparing
themselves with others. Such unnecessary feeling made them jealous resulting to
grudge that time may not expunge easily. My suggestion: a change in attitude…by
being positive in living one’s life….and changing it for the better.
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