On Being Frail and Just Being Flirt
Posted on Thursday, 17 November 2016
ON BEING FRAIL AND JUST BEING FLIRT
By Apolinario Villalobos
If one is frail, he/she could be weak
either in health or emotion. Being frail in health is self-explanatory, but
being frail emotionally is more complicated as it concerns the heart that
easily “falls” in the name of love, as well as, one’s psychological stability.
To fall in love easily because of frailty should not be mistaken for just being
flirt. There is seriousness in falling in love due to frailty and the person
can fight for it to death. But if one changes partner as often as he/she could,
then he/she is plain and simply being flirt.
Flirting is an indication that one is
sexually voracious. For a woman she could be a nymphomaniac and for a man he
could be a sex maniac. Pride is also involved in flirting as for a woman with
advancing age, she may want to prove that she is still sexually capable which
in Tagalog means, “may asim pa”. For a man who is in the same situation and wants
to brag that he can still endure, means, “tigasin pa”. For being flirt, a woman
can be viewed as, “biga-on”, “bigatot”, “bigatlon”, “makatol” (Bisaya: Ilonggo
and Cebuano); “garampingat” (Ilocano); “badiangan” (T’boli); “batinggilan”
(Karay-a); “kantutin”, “malandi”,
“makati” (Tagalog). For a man, the generic term among Bisayans is his being,
“pala-utog”, “butakal”, and in Tagalog, “kantutin” or “pala-kantot”.
It is not right for de Lima to say that she
fell for Dayan, her former driver because she had been frail as a woman which
has a rough equivalent in Tagalog as, “sapagka’t ako ay tao lamang”. If it was
love that she felt, hence, fell for him, she should have been open about their
affair, but all indications point to her lack of seriousness about it. In
Tagalog her act means, “tikim lang”. It should be recalled that one of the
Bilibid witnesses mentioned that the “role” of
Dayan was later taken over by another guy, or that Dayan was simply
“replaced” by another guy.
As an educated and well-informed woman, she
should have known that as a government official before getting elected as
senator, albeit questionably, having an affair with a man who is informally
separated from his wife, and despite her being legally separated from her
husband, is not allowed, or simply, distasteful, repugnant, offensive,
revolting, objectionable, obnoxious, repulsive, etc. I CAN’T JUST FATHOM, THEN,
HOW HER COTERIE OF NUNS, PRIESTS, BISHOPS, STUDENTS, “PROPER” WOMEN WHO BELONG
TO CONSCIENCE GROUPS KUNO, FAILED TO SEE SUCH GLARING SITUATION.
De Lima’s incessant denial before of her affair
with Dayan, but finally admitting it, proved that she is CAPABLE OF TELLING
LIES with which she insulted the intelligence of the Filipinos for a long time.
And, this puts her credibility in jeopardy as regards her equally unremitting
denial of her involvement in the anomalous drug transactions inside the
Bilibid. Who will believe her “innocence” now?...perhaps, again, the women’s
groups, especially, Gabriela, the priests, nuns, students, and bishops…at
least, there are some, as the rest of the nation does not. With Kerwin Espinosa
home and set to spill the beans, there is no denying that the sword of Damocles
is threateningly swaying over her head. She should be singing, “My Way” now…as
she is doomed to face the final curtain!...what if she is sentenced after the
death penalty is approved?
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